Me and John.
John and I.
Myself and my husband.
Annnnd my jacket was sliding, hence the whole linebacker shoulder thing.
Pat Benatar was wrong. Love is NOT a battlefield.
But it can be, if we don't build an impenetrable fortress around our spouse and our self.
Here are some things my husband and I do to keep the fortress healthy and standing.
-We call it "a hedge". Keeping a hedge around us so that no one can ever say "well, I was all alone with her/him and she/he did...."
Keep all office doors open, literally.
-Do not get suckered into an emotional connection with a person of the same gender as your spouse. DUH. Seriously. But it's a fine line, people, and if you have to justify secret conversations, then you are in trouble. BIG trouble.
Unless you are planning a surprise party, then it's all good.
-Do not speak ill of your spouse to anyone for any reason. This undermines your relationship in tiny steps, but a hundred tiny steps turns into a very long walk.
- Brag about them. Go ahead. If she sings well, tell your friends. If he's a great cook, share that with the crowd. Because if you brag them up? Chances are, someone is hearing about how awesome you are.
-Make time for each other. My husband will actually sit and watch Downton Abbey with me. People who know us are STUNNED by his behaviour. Why? It's PBS. It is NOT hockey.
-Make out. Can I get an amen?
So, anyone else want to chime in???
And in other news....
*Chad Allen from Baker Books will be joining TFTR for a visit.
*As well as Katie Ganshert!
Stayed tuned for details.